A key to something.

So here I was talking to one of my favorite friends about relationships and marriage.

It has become apparent to me recently that I have not ever had a good model for relationships simply because there havent been any successful relationships of people close to me in my life that I could reflect on. My parents are divorced and the same is true with most of my friends. And for the friends that have married parents still…. Well their parents are typically in a position where they dont love each other anymore or have some sort of serious marital problem that does not allow them anymore to be a functional team. 

So talking to my friend, who is one of the only people I know who has had a good set of parents to model after. I was talking to him about how he solves his relationship and soon to be marital problems. 

He said that talking about things and putting yourself in the other persons shoes works rather well.  Something more that caught my attention, I asked him how he felt about being married so early, hes not even twenty one years old yet.  He mentioned that with how long their relationship has been. There are many situations and times where the maturity of their relationship has outgrown the typical maturity of their age. Given that and their dedication to each other it has become harder for them to not be married because they have already committed so much of their lives together. Mentioning also that the way they have been able to grow as themselves as well as grow together in a relationship has made him understand that relationships are not about just finding a perfect person who matches you, but instead about finding someone you work well enough with to be able to take the time and decide that its worth it to grow together.

Through the conversation I ended up being incredibly impressed by the amount of maturity this twenty year old kid had been able to articulate. Honestly, I have hope for this relationship and I believe that they will truly be able to work.  Its reassuring, thought I might share that with you all.

Also, happy new year, lest make “the last year” count. haha